how do you want to be treated?

there is a old saying that goes - treat others the way you want to be treated. the question is how do you want to be treated? how do you treat yourself? have you been kind to yourself? do you live in a constant fear and worry? do you have respect for who you really are? have you loved and accepted who you are? are you forgiving? do you hold grudges against others --- ? the truth is, it is only when you are willing to be kind to yourself, someone can be kind to you because on the higher level anything you see outside of you is not different from who you really are.